Gates Crash at Gramercy Park

When is a Gate not a Gate?

Around 12:30 a.m. on April 4, a silver 2002 New Jersey plated Saturn crashed through the wrought-iron gate on the north side of Gramercy Park. The driver did $60.000. worth of damages, taking out one of seven new fiberglass planters and damaging the park gate. The Park is located at 21st and Lexington, where Lexington abruptly goes from concrete to green, surprising more than just the occasional New Jersey driver. In fact, the security guard at the Gramercy Park Hotel, which gentrifies even the gentrified surrounding neighborhood, said he saw the whole thing. “It happens all the time, “ he said, speaking on the condition of anonymity. “The car didn’t stop, backed up and headed the wrong way down 21st Street, which is a one way street, before making a U-Turn and leaving.”

The President of the Gramercy Park, Association, Arlene Harrison, agrees: drivers make similar mistakes every few years. It is odd that the street ends so quickly. Or is it more odd that the park begins so quickly? This is one of those glass half full or glass half empty problems that bother many of us, much of the time.

Personally I hope for the surprise of liberation more frequently than that but will take what I can get. I take the middle ground on whether the pavement is ending or the park beginning, whether the glass is half full or half empty. I am with the security guard and the association President: I want both to be heard and to be protected, both to be liberated and to be gated. I am one of many who hope we can have it both ways. All of these matters were on my mind last Sunday as I made my fairly normal walk past the park.

As I strolled past Gramercy Park the Sunday morning of this particular gatecrashing, I realized that the gate was not only damaged but also open. I could go into the park. I would not have to view the perfectly planted red tulips through the bars but could get up close and personal. I would not have to manage both the green of the park and the green of my envy of those who had keys to it. The park is accessible to residents of the Gramercy Neighborhood Associates and to people who stay overnight in one of the surrounding boutique hotels. They get keys. The Hoi Polloi do not get keys. On three days of the years the park is open to the polloi and the public: Christmas, Yom Kippur and “Gramercy Park Day.” I guess Silver Saturn from Jersey couldn’t wait. Gramercy Park Day is scheduled for May 31 this year, from 9:30 – 1:30, although I read on the many sites regarding these matters that last year it did not open on the appointed day. Or that the appointed day was a matter of some confusion. It used to “always” be the first Sunday in May but has been changed. Likewise the last few years many complainants agreed that it likewise not open on Christmas or the Day of Atonement. You would think that the key holders would want a day of atonement annually – just for having the keys. But apparently someone forgot to crash the gate.

Anyway, last Sunday with a brain full of glasses and gates and disputes between the concrete and the green, and who would have sway and who would not, I happened upon the open gate. I began with laughter: It was the second Sunday after Easter. I all but jumped over the broken gate and got into the park, feeling guilty and like a cop was going to stop me any second. I had an unexpected chance to play the lead role in the Easter story. I could be Mary in a reversal of the script. “What are you doing here?” the cop would say. I would answer something snippy, like where have they taken the body, you know the body of the man who crashed the gate. The cop would not be kind: he would say that I was not allowed in here except on the three days afore mentioned. I would take the opportunity of dawn and quarrel with him. I would say that the last year the legitimate opening failed. Plus, what is a legitimate opening? The cop would remember that he too took Philosophy 101; he too enjoyed a good argument. We would give that half smile to each other that permits officials and unofficials to chat. We would have a game, the kind that becomes urban legend.

No cop ever came. I just walked around the park’s circled, graveled, well-combed walkway the first time with a well-defended trepidation. Then I walked a second time and a third, practically breaking into a dance. No one was there. No cop, no Savior, no gamed conversation, just me. The tulips were there. The expensive blue flowers whose name I don’t know were there. The raked gravel marked the paths in the way that speaks of money. I had a chance to think of more than the usual.

I wondered about the privaticization of parks. Gramercy is the gold standard. But Bryant Park is also a new “public/private cooperation.” Soon Washington Square Park will have the Tish Fountain at its center, although the movement grows to name it the “People’s Fountain.” Let the Tish’s pay for it if they must. But giving them the name and the privaticiation feels like more than even the fountain, which is nearly priceless, is worth.

I don’t know the guy who ran away from the scene of the crime. I know lots of people who go the wrong way on one-way streets. In fact, these people are my friends. These people are “the people” in whose name the fountains should all be named. I have no idea if the glass is happy or half full. I have no idea which is the lead in the play: the concrete or the green. I do know if you go the wrong way on a one-way street you see things better.

I also know the truth of the occasional liberation. May its tribe increase. Gates have no where near the power they think they do.

The Rev. Dr Donna Schaper is the Senior Minster of Judson Memorial Church and author of Grassroots Gardening: Rituals to Sustain Activism from Nation books.

Which Jesus is it at Christmas? Thoughts from Palestine

Yesterday, Christmas Day, 2007, my son, Isaac, wearing a TShirt that says REAL MEN MARRY RABBIS, my daughter-in-law, Sara, who is studying to be a Rabbi, my husband, Warren, who is Jewish, and my daughter, Katie, who is a community organizer living in an intentional Jewish Community, Avodah in Brooklyn — yes 5 of us, including me, a Christian — went to Bethlehem in Palestine to Christmas Mass. We were hosted by “The Holy Land Trust” which seeks non violent solutions to the MidEast Crisis. We left our Avis Car in Jerusalem and took a cab, down the “settlement” road, through a check point, into Bethlehem. When we asked our Arab driver, how he got through the check points when things get ugly (they were not yesterday), he pulled out a Star of David Blue and White Air Freshener and hung it under his rear view mirror.

Lunching over great pita and even better hummus (pronouned here as HOOmus), we three versions of Abraham listened to Jingle Bells on the radio. Who were we? And who was the Jesus who brought us together for one day in Bethlehem? Let me offer my own small thoughts.

Which Jesus is born at Christmas?

Most people are misunderstood. You know one person and I know another. His mother knows a third, and his father a fourth. When it comes to Jesus, the stakes in distortion are even higher. Some think that Jesus is IT, that is to say the Messiah, the one true God, the big deal. Others think not. The argument has a long history. For centuries people have called the mistakes we make in interpreting Jesus “heresies.” Consider Chalcedon or Nicea. Heresies make a marvelous, if useless, study. Being right about Jesus is not a Jesus kind of question. There is not enough love in it.

Thus my little question about a big subject: Whose Jesus is born at Christmas? Is Jesus God? Is Jesus human? Is Jesus both and if so, how can that be? Is Jesus Messiah? Is Jesus second person of the Trinity? Does Jesus save us and if so, from what? Is it Jesus that passes us on the bar exam to heaven? Can we get to heaven without “believing” in him and if we do “believe” in him, whatever that means, are we assured heaven? What about the Chinese man who never heard of Jesus? Is he condemned to a version of Buddhist hell? Who knows? And more importantly, who cares and why? Jesus would.

I have long wanted to ask these questions of the Punishmentalists, who are most definite about their particular distortion of Jesus. Jesus is my personal lord and savior, they say, and should be the personal lord and savior of all humankind. Without Jesus, humans are condemned to hell. With Jesus, the otherworldly salvation of heaven is ours. Jesus is the bar exam.

I call these ideas the higher humbug. I don’t think Jesus is otherworldly so much as this worldly. I don’t like the words “savior” or “Messiah” at all, the reason being that they infantilize human beings. The idea that Jesus is the “one” “true” God strikes me as a sneaky way to hate other people. Nor can I imagine a God or Jesus so small that my belief would be a bother one way or the other. In fact, the Punishmentalist version of Jesus is so righteous as to be self-righteous. It sets the bar too high – so high that Jesus could not possibly have set it. Jesus spent most of his ministry asking people to ask the right questions: whether we eat corn on the Sabbath is less important than how to heal the sick and transform the poor. Jesus is a large warning sign against right answers on behalf of the right questions. He is the true human, so closely linked to God that he behaves differently.

Jesus is love, according to the scriptures. I first knew Jesus as a six year old when my father was beating up my mother. I called the Pastor of our small upstate Missouri Synod Lutheran Church (I was raised by the kind fundamentalists) and he came. I used a dial phone and on the other end of it was Jesus. He just came as Pastor Witte. The fighting stopped. Since that day, a kind of Jesus love has warmed my heart and stomach. It never goes away and keeps me safe and warm. I have dedicated my life to keeping young girls safe with Jesus’ love as my tool.

I have a miniaturist’s Jesus. He is a small glow of warmth — not a large fence, never a wall, separating the “believers” from the “unbelievers.” I can’t imagine judging all those children and adults for whom Jesus did not “show”, the way he did for me. My Jesus is very small, often powerless, rarely uses the word “should.” He is too loving for that. This Jesus is the Amish forgiving the man who killed their children – and going on to take care of the killer’s children for him. This Jesus tells me when I am hit by a drunk driver and nearly killed that I am to love him and not hate him. This Jesus tells me, a Democrat, to love Republicans. This Jesus has a sense of humor!

Do I want to duke it out with the punishmentalists about whose birthday it is? No. What I want is to show how high the stakes are between getting Jesus right and getting Jesus love. There is a big difference, and it matters to real people in real time what that difference is. If the third world war is to be avoided, the walls have to come down and lots and lots of people, terrorists, orthodox-ists, Christians are going to have to learn to be a little, not a lot, right about many things.

The Rev. Dr. Donna Schaper is Senior Minister at Judson Memorial Church in New York City and author of LIVING WELL WHILE DOING GOOD, from Church, and GRASSROOTS GARDENING: RITUALS TO SUSTAIN ACTIVISTS from Nation books. She is also the principal in the “Bricks Without Straw Consultation” service, which helps small organizations do large things.

The New Sanctuary Movement: WHY?

How to Become a Sanctuary Congregation

For the People Who were Not Saved by the Bill: the 12 million already here, under constant threat of harassment, early morning raids and potential detention and deportation.

1. Begin with the Why. Why do you care about people you don’t know? Why do you care about people others call strangers? Look up the word stranger in any sacred text: you will find a mandate to welcome the stranger. God is hiding there. Jesus’ words come from my tradition: “When you saw me naked, you clothed me. When you saw me hungry, you fed me…when I was kept out, you let me in…as you do these things to the least of these, you do them unto me.” In the first testament, we are reminded that we too once were strangers in a strange land. Why become a sanctuary congregation? Because it is the basic law of our faiths: we are to love one another. When we do not do what we say we do, we are phoneys.
2. Move to the How. Listen to the language being used against people. “Illegal immigrants.” How can we hear those words unless as dehumanizing? Is anyone illegal in the eyes of God? Listen deeply. Then ask yourself whether you really want protection from humanity? Or do you want something more? Like connecting. Are you not a member of a religious congregation precisely to connect with other humans in a Godly way?
3. Get to the what. You can’t do that much. Neither can I. But as congregations we can welcome one family, especially one about to be detained or deported, leaving behind children. They are everywhere, and they might even already be working for you. None of the current laws being proposed help any of these people already here! You may not have known that. Now you do. 1.8 million people have already been deported in the last ten years. Families are separated and in terrible grief for each other. There are 12 million people now in the country making a living, building a life, and having children. Could we possible send them all away? Don’t neglect to help one family because you can’t help them all. Don’t hide in that abstracted hiding place.
4. Understand the argument about the law. The law is broken. It can be fixed. Just as in the Underground Railroad, slaves had to disobey a broken law till a better one came. Just like in the Civil Rights movement, people had to sit in at lunch counters where legally they were not allowed. Similarly, women could not vote before 1918. Now we can. When Margaret Sanger distributed the first birth control, she wrote the Attorney General of New York, telling him what she was doing. The New Sanctuary Movement also operates in the sushine.

Laws often and always need reformation. Our immigration system’s laws are anti-human. See for yourself. Go to court. The immigration system is the most cruel civil procedure in the country right now. Render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s and unto God’s what is God’s. Why would we terrorize so many people instead of welcoming them? Very few chambermaids are terrorists. We are letting fear of terrorism destroy our nation’s heart.

5. Act in small ways. Gather a group and pray and think together about what you could do to help one family. Accompany them to court. Publicize their situation. Get to know them. Don’t patronize them: many have money and all have dignity. Their legal status is the issue, not their poverty. Our two families in New York City are employed as a busboy and a religious candle salesman. One has a green card and is married to an African American woman; they have four children. Get real about real people.
6. When you have formed your group, go to your congregation and ask them to vote to become a sanctuary congregation. Join the movement. Get active in it.
7. Manage the inevitable conflict with joy and gladness: hate always wins by making people afraid of conflict. Let them be more afraid of love than hate, hope than fear. In a world of hate, if you are not receiving hate mail for your acts of love, you probably aren’t much of a congregation.
8. Give thanks to God for entering your life and that of your nation. Be glad for a positive program with a positive word “Sanctuary” to put forth.
9. Huddle with the masses yearning to be free. Become newly patriotic.
10. Attend a lot of meetings and don’t tire from them. Even meetings are avenues for the action of God. Plus most meetings before Sanctuary weren’t that interesting, were they? Just kidding. And that is the final advice: stay light and hopeful and real, what you have prayed to be as a congregation since the beginning.

Op-Ed: We are all Strangers in a Strange Land

America’s immigration system is broken, and it’s time for Congress to fix it. People of faith of all kinds understand that the so-called stranger is often an emissary of the divine. Red, blue and purple Americans are all proud of the past welcomes we have given to newcomers to our land. A broken system hurts everybody: the newcomers and the faithful, patriotic American. Instead of becoming the people of our worst fears, we might yet become the people of our finest hopes.

Immigrants are presently risking their lives to cross the desert and sea, often under life-threatening conditions; they leave loved ones behind and write themselves into the great American drama of self-improvement. When they get here, many workers end up being exploited by unscrupulous employers who seek to gain an unfair advantage over competitors. Current American policy is ethically disgraceful: we have it both ways, getting cheap labor from people we then disrespect. People paint our nails, clean our houses, pick our fruit, build our roads – and then we call them criminals. Just the opposite is what we need: fair labor practices extended to people whose humanity we do respect. That policy is a WIN-WIN; what we have now is a LOSE-LOSE.

Interfaith representatives, including national Jewish, Christian, and Islamic leadership bodies, have issued an eloquent statement about immigration stressing how “our diverse faith traditions teach us to welcome our brothers and sisters with love and compassion.” Instead, we have a government and a system that criminalizes, persecutes, and shuts people out. Unjust detention and deportations join raids in homes and factories: this is NOT an America I can respect.

Self-aggrandizing diswelcome is ethically unfair and morally wrong: the vast majority of immigrants are honest, hard-working, tax-paying people. Communities of faith have a vital role to play in demanding that our representatives take action for extravagant welcome in more just laws, more equitable work conditions for whole and united families. These are not political issues: they are trans political issues, involving the root and ground of human beings and their God given rights. I join my interfaith colleagues when I speak from an ethical base to a political proposal. Family values must have feet or they are hypocritical; children are being damaged by stress and fear and poverty. Religious voices must raise political solutions or be dismayingly naive. (PS: Immigrants do boost the economy. While not part of my moral argument, this fact is proven. If morality does not interest you, choose pragmatism.)

Alarmingly, none of the current bills before Congress help the 12 million people already here. Only one, the CHILD CITIZEN PROTECTION ACT, might. At least it would give judges a chance to NOT deport people with American born (citizen) children. The Sorrano bill is one that at least starts to deal with the reality of people already here, many with Green Cards, many in terrible danger of having their family values and integrity violated.

Without a comprehensive solution to the problem, children lose protection, local community tensions simmer, public frustration mounts. Without a real solution, the horrific raids we saw recently in New Bedford, Massachusetts and right here in New York State, where 42 immigrants in Albany were arrested in one week, will only become more common.

As a nation, we are at our best when we overcome “us vs. them” fears and forge unity out of our diversity. We need to make sure we hold up our ideals of fairness and opportunity for those who seek to become new Americans and who are ready to work hard to achieve their American dreams. It is time to fix our broken immigration system with a tough, fair, and practical immigration reform bill that makes us all stronger, safer, prouder and richer.

Worship in the Age of Catastrophe

When a gunman gets loose on a Virginia campus, or in a high school in Colorado, or planes hit large buildings or bombs fell same in Oklahoma City, people gather in horror and disbelief to make liturgy and love. I’ll never forget the mountains of moist stuffed animals that lined the river after 9 - 11. These little shrines were like those in Oklahoma City, piled high by people who had to “Do something.”

When we gather to worship in the midst of catastrophe, a few rules apply. Gather quickly: don’t wait. The immediate moment requires the great attention of worship and gathering. Forget about the parochial: the name Jesus matters less than the name God. This is no time to alienate people with small pictures of the divine. Invite people who may have had a brush with violence or tragedy before: they are going to be doubly afflicted. You know who they are. Give people (absurdly) practical tasks. Handing out bulletins, cleaning the chapel, involving action in publicity and follow up: the way through the big stuff is the small stuff.

There is nothing small about liturgy: it is the one thing (besides sex) these days that demand our full attention. When tragedy happens, liturgy helps.

Easter: Calmly Plotting the Ressurection

Hanging on by a Post Easter String

If this article had a structure, Ira Gershwin could give it.

The first song would be “Let’s call the whole thing off” – and will focus on how overstated the Easter Claims often are. By mid summer, we can barely remember the trumpets much less live by them.

The middle would be “I’ve Got Rhythm, “ which is to say OK, so the claims are overstated so how do we learn to dance the life of hyperbole and halleluiah.

The end would be “Who could ask for anything more.” Overstatement meets its rhythm in understatement.

For the more linear among us, consider the structure one of strings. The whole message is addressed to that part of you that is “just hanging on by a string.” We all have those parts – and some of us have been taken over by that point of view and are its fully owned subsidiary. “I – and we – are just hanging on by a string.” Worse, some of us are at the ends of our ropes.

The Easter story makes huge claims based on very little evidence, so “let’s call the whole thing off.”

Nevertheless we hang on for dear life. “I’ve got Rhythm.”

Finally, the Easter claim of resurrection is a string itself, someone to watch over us and something on which to hang.

Who, I want to begin and end by saying, could ask for anything more? What version of monster lives in a world like this whining about how little there is to trust? Listen deeply to the statement about strings.

“I am just hanging on by a string.” What response is appropriate? You poor thing? As in pathos and sympathy? Or you idiot, as in judgment and distancing? I mean really what’s wrong with you that you can’t find a family, or a faith, or a movement to which to bond and make yourself safe? You poor thing. You idiot. You co dependent. What do you want me to do about it? I’m just hanging on by a string myself. How come your problem wants to become my problem? Once we state the problem as “I am just hanging on by a string, “ we already have problems. There aren’t many good response, either divine or human. Many of us descend into “Let’s call the whole thing off.”

Note please that the Easter stories are only three and that they embody the string theory. Jesus appears to a couple of women, unlikely reporters at best. Jesus appears to a few disciples and eats a fish and they find their hearts strangely warmed. They don’t even claim that he is he, they just eat. . These appearances are the most important, going to Mary Magdalene, the other women, two disciples on the road to Emmaus, Simon Peter, the ten apostles, then again to eleven gathered, to the apostles at the Sea of Tiberius, then in Galilee, to 500 “brethren”, to all the apostles, then to St. Paul.

Yes, Paul goes on later to declare, particularly in I Corinthians 15: 5 – 8, the way Paul puts himself last after Cephas, who saw, and 500, who say they saw Jesus alive as well. Paul writes after Easter, the way we now read after Easter ourselves.

Even though the evidence is slim, I don’t want to call the whole thing off, I want to call it ON. I have learned to love threads and hate ropes. I have learned to appreciate the flimsy and find things which don’t admit that they are flimsy to often be false. I am tired of the downbeat rhythm of the lost innocence frame, wherein our hopes are so large they can’t possibly be met. Strings in fact have often been given extraordinary capacity. I think of Ariadne and her intestinal, wombish, rebirth. I think of the Da Vinci code reminding us of the underground red thread, that first marked the houses of the Israelites in some strange way and became the hidden rose.

I think of how strong the Lilliputians were when they tied up big people in little strings. And that may be my definition of Easter, pre and post: it is a flimsy string of evidence believed by the little people has the power to tie the big people up in knots.

You must have read by now Donald Hall’s poem, “String too Short to be Saved.” He goes to his grandfather’s attic, after he dies, and discovers a box marked in an old man’s hand, “String too short to be saved.” The box was full of little pieces of string. That is the Easter Evidence. That is the “I Got rhythm” phase. That is not so much extravagant belief as it is modest hope.

Some of you may have seen “Radical Lace and Subversive Knitting” at MOMA. It shows the current renaissance of venerable handcraft traditions in work of 27 international artists. Blowtorches, fiber optics, and shredded currency knitting needles the size of telephone poles join a gown with long knitted veins that illuminates a whole body. Two commercial backhoes knit a 35-foot American flag. Niels Van Eijk of the Netherlands knots hundreds of individual optical fingers to create a chandelier that glows with light. These are not your grandmother’s crocheted doilies and knitted legwarmers…how fiber functions on a tangible, spiritual and aesthetic level. Elena Herzog begins her installations by attaching a textile, such as a vintage bedspread, to a sheet rock panel using thousands of industrial staples. As she removes the staples from the fabric, surrounding bits of fabric are also removed, and the resulting work becomes a haunting, ghostlike image of what once was a whole cloth. We who once were a whole cloth get torn in pieces. We hang on by a thread. We are still and nonetheless beautiful (Organized by David McFadden, Chief Curator at the Museum of Arts and Design)

I have come to have great respect for thread, for lace, for the holy threaded intestinal Grail of what happens when we keep our claims small and our hope active. Then we get rhythm for what we must do. So instead of calling the whole thing off because it is so preposterous, I propose a string like rhythm. A thread, which starts as blood, but begins the blood rising in us. Watch how some people manage to live and you will see the Holy Grail, grailing among us.

I was gardening in Amherst last week where I have a small farm. The tenants are very interesting people but gardeners they are not. As I stood there in the herb garden uncovering the sweet woodruff and the creeping thyme, my tenant watched me. Wow, he said, I just didn’t know all that green stuff was under there. A winter of wet leaves and dirty snow was sitting right on the head of the Iris and the thyme. “I guess I just didn’t know that stuff was under there.” There it is. While many people over inflate the Easter Claim, some also under inflate it and don’t bother to give winter and cold a fight. They just smother the green in themselves. When we have the rhythm of resurrection, at least we pick up the garden in the spring. We give growth a chance. We also do small things to nod towards the immortal.

Katherine Porter White was a strange gardener. She wrote a lot about gardening but mostly was the very precise editor – the fastest pencil in the East was her nickname at the New Yorker — of a lot of famous people, one of whom she married. She was also a strange wife, mother of Roger Angell, wife of EB White, whose whimsy entertained way more people than her pencil or her plants did.

They gardened in Maine and lived in New York. As a weekend gardener, she often wore her well-tailored blue suits and modest pumps in the garden because she didn’t take time to change. She was the kind of gardener who gardened for precise bouquets for the luncheon table. Thus season after season, EB observed her, keeping her pumps from the mud and picking flowers for the luncheon table. When it was clear she was soon to die, they made a last early November trip to Maine. There she picked a few posies that had survived the early frosts and put in some bulbs for the next year. On that day EB write the first line of her eulogy, which was way too soon to be given.

“There was Katherine, blue suit, pumps, but kneeling, putting bulbs in the soil, CALMLY PLOTTING THE RESURRECTION. “

Katharine was hanging on by a thread. Sometimes people will say they are just hanging on by a fingernail, or a thread. Often I say that may be all you need. I turn here: Who could ask for anything more? Simone de Beauvoir wore a dirty strong around her finger. Why? To remind herself that she was alive. Who could ask for anything more?

Even some of the 80% of the prisoners in Guantanamo are in solitary 22 hours a day go to bed with hope in their hearts. They are hanging on by a string but at least they are hanging.

There is a joke going around about Katie Couric who some think belittles her. Walter Cronkite said, “That’s the way it is, “ and Katie Couric says,
That’s part of what we did our best to find out. For me the less imperial the claim, the better.

In the book by , a kind of Da Vinci Clone, there is a magnificent story of a fire in a French village. The father jumps first to be followed by the two children. Both jump into his arms. Then the mother disappears from the window for a moment, only to return with the family’s lace. With it, she jumps to her husbands’ arms. Why would anybody want to save LACE? And can’t you hear her saying, Who could ask for anything more?

When we run out of the bullets, we use to defend our grandiose claims – to be right about God, to be right as a nation, to be right as a person – when we run out of the bullets, we will run into the lace. We will find that hanging on by a string is a lot more noble than surviving by a bullet and an army.. Rather than dithering in Darfur, we will find that saving so called useless people in a so called useless part of the world is a good thing to do. We will have moved from “That’s just the way it is,” to “Darfur, though small, is a part of it all.”

We are also in a kind of solitary confinement most of the time. We don’t need to be occupied by a foreign power: many of us pre-occupy. We live so deeply in our first world heads that we can’t even figure out where our troops are today or whether it is the Sunnis or the Shihites who are the current problem. Many of us are like Darfur: non-strategic countries.

But still by the grace of God, we matter. We do matter. We do rise. We do have hope. We do have life. Who could ask for anything more?

Title Nine, “Nappy Headed Ho’s”, and Basketball

On Imus, Title 9 Anniversary and Nappy Headed Ho’s

I am so glad he just came right out and said it. “What a group of nappy headed “Ho’s.” I am surprised he didn’t also call them dikes. We know that’s what he thinks. It’s so much better when people like Imus say what they think rather than acting like they don’t think what we know they do think. They leave us confused when inarticulate; when they say what they mean – that women basketball players are just a bunch of “nappy headed Ho’s” – our worlds come back together. We understand why our team has less network time than their teams. We understand why we get paid less, even when on the top of our game. And we learn how hard it is for men to accept that women are full human beings rather than the warm up team.

The Rutgers women’s basketball team may have lost the game to Tennessee but they are going to help us win the war on sexism. What war? The war of words and metaphors and true feelings. Women athletes have lots more on the legal page than we have in the BANK.

Permit me one story as I write on the 35th anniversary of Title Nine—37 words that changed the world of athletics.

I played basketball in South Carolina in the sixties. The Saluda High School women’s team WAS the warm up team for the men. We would play first, they would play second. Our buses barely made it up the rolling Carolina hills; their buses whizzed by our buses on the road. Their teams had good uniforms, good buses, and first billing in the act. We had ratty uniforms, few balls, and a part time coach. When our buses broke down, which they often did, and the women’s team had to push the bus up the next hill, so we could get it started again, their team would stop and laugh at us. Yup. Hey you nappy headed ho’s, or whatever the current epithet was, what’s the matter with your bus? Ha , ha, ha.

Thanks, Mr. Imus, for the insult. You will help us get Title Nine enforced. You have demonstrated what so many of us know, but have a hard time proving, that too many white boys (you hear me, Duke Lacrosse players?) still enjoy a casual racism spiced with sex, and sexism. You have “outed” yourself and we are grateful.

You may have hip hop “ho” talk behind you. You may have the bullying power of clever insults behind you. Surely such behavior has made you successful. But you don’t have the American people behind you: most of believe in fair play, and you don’t play fair. You play mean. When people see who you really are, thanks to your frankness, those 37 little words will make a lot more sense: “No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance.” Women athletes no longer need be on the bottom, the position “Ho’s” know all too well. Someday in the near future I see your team playing the warm-up game. If I’ve got some time on my hands I’ll ride to it in a nice bus in time to catch the last half.

Coop America: What a concept! What reality!

Coop America is my favorite organization.

Listen to its vision statement.

Harnessing economic power

for social justice

and environmental sustainability.

And to its Mission Statement:

“We work for a world where all people have enough, where all
communities are healthy and safe, and where the beauty and wealth of
the earth is preserved for all generations to come.”

Our mission is to harness the economic power of consumers, investors,
businesses, and the marketplace to create a socially just and
environmentally sustainable society.

They also have the best list of places in which to make a green investment.

I am proud that they take a little money out of my checkbook every month.

This statement would also be a great preamble to the preamble of the constitution.

What is Spiritual Violence?

When it comes to God and God’s neighbor, religion, I have often felt a
sense of unworthiness. Why? These feelings are not from God but
definitely from religion.

I was rejected by the church of my birth, the Missouri Synod Lutheran
Church. I was a child who loved that church, only to find out that
they didn’t ordain women. And here I was a child who baptized her
dolls, so much did I want to be a minister. That rejection still
hurts from time to time. When I am weak, I am tempted to believe that
they were right. Women, meaning me, aren’t adequate enough to
represent God.

Fortunately I was visited by a spirit larger than the institutional
church. Through many people on many occasions so I have lots of help
in combating the sense of unworthiness. My question, of course, is
why the Missouri Synod Lutherans could act like they loved me only to
reject me. My experience is so small compared to what others have
known. I have found out, also, that many people never had the
visitation of the spirit in the stomach that I had. So they not only
wondered about religion but about God. I have tried to make a
difference, right there.

Judson will host a Spiritual Violence Conference in NYC on April 20 - 22. Let me know if you know what I mean by spiritual violence — and come if you want.

Metaphor Management: Women and Leadership

A Letter to the Bishop

The hand written caring response I received from Bishop Schori just arrived. She asked that I speak to the Fifth Avenue Church which advertised her talk with a false metaphor. I have.

Thanks, Bishop Schori for the beauty and consideration of your reply, proving my larger point. Women and men may not be THAT different on many things but when it comes to how we relate to others, differences abound.

Here is the Letter I wrote:

Dear Katharine Jefferts Schori:
Presiding Bishop Episcopal Church

Please, with all due respect to your office and joy in your having it, DITCH the metaphor of shattering or breaking the stained glass ceiling when you give speeches to congregations. The title I saw outside of one of your Fifth Avenue Churches, “Breaking the stained glass ceiling”, is a sneaky form of sexism, layering women’s experiences of leadership with men’s images of same. Hillary and the rest of us need your help in metaphor management.

That’s not what you are doing or will do. You will neither shatter not break but build nor congeal. Nor do you need the language of up, up and up. You will move your people OUT, not up. Instead of upward trajectories, you will widen the circle. You will not look down on those below you so much as around at those with you. You won’t need bad jokes from the 27th floor: “my how small everyone looks from here.” You will be living proof that people aren’t small, even when you have the privilege to look down on them.

Not all women’s leadership is trans-hierarchical and not all women’s leadership is non violent. Many of us are still condemned to use power the way some men do. We look down at those below us and we do break things when we get power. But enough of us work or at least try to work differently when we have power that at least we deserve our own metaphors.

These concerns matter to not just me and women like me: they are front and center in the national issue of women’s leadership, as Presidents, Speakers of the House and Executives. When the metaphors don’t describe our experience, it is time to speak out. Not all women and not all men use power the same ways! But enough men and women try to share it, use it inclusively and create circles of responsibility rather than hierarchies of control that we deserve respect for the effort. Women are not shattering anything when we get power: we are opening the ceilings so a little fresh air can blow through the cathedral. We are opening, not shattering, the stained glass windows and their unfortunate, unnecessary ceilings. Retitle your speeches, “Opening the Stained Glass Ceilings. To let in a little light and air.”

Accentuate the Positive, Decentuate the Negative

SOMETHING WONDERFUL WILL HAPPEN AT WASHINGTON SQUARE.

Here in Greenwich Village, most people just start shaking their heads with cynical back and forth motions of the nose and face when they speak of Washington Square. The park people and the mayor want to straighten it out. They want to take out trees. They want to put up fences. They want to make it flat. These things are being recommended “for our own good.” Otherwise the rats may fully take over ownership, the ancient plumbing on the fountain will result in water mess instead of water magic.

Those who love symmetry and flatness have their eyes on the park. There is no doubt. They have sharpened their pencils and are just waiting for the four lawsuits to die down, the community to shake its head left and right a little more - and then they will pounce and improve and gentrify and straighten the park out. We are already being “Robert Mosesed” with needed repairs being delayed because “who can do anything till things settle down?” By the time all the concrete is cracked and unsightly, the Parks Department, for our own good, will be firmly in charge of one of the best performance plazas in the world. When those who love and fully enjoy this Park shake their heads, they are shaking them for good reason. The mayor and the parks people will never admit they want the final gentrification and Starbuckization and OldNavyization of Greenwich Village to happen at Washington Square. They don’t need to admit it. They know Jane Jacobs is dead - or so they hope - and they intend to win the battle of homogenization, gentrification, symmetry and social class. They don’t even know what they’re doing to the “soul” of the Village- they just know that park musicians, chess players, performance artists, fountain splashers and hobos don’t look like the kind of city they want. They aren’t white enough nor well dressed enough. They don’t just walk through the Park, They stay and makes music together, commune, watch the action, feel less alone, enjoy the unmistakable and joyous energy of a “gathering”.

There is another way to shake your head about Washington Square Park. It is up and down rather than back and forth. Up and down says yes to a repaired, more beautiful, even livelier vision of what the park might be; back and forth lies down and lets the gentrifying-for-your-own-good people have their way with you. When we shake our heads back and forth, we give them our power. We say yes to their homogenizing, depersonalizing take-over. We make it even worse than it is! And it is bad. Up and down motions put a smile on our face: we begin figuring out what the dead buried in the park would do and how we who love and use the park want it to be. We rise up with their courage and with the imagination Jane Jacobs showed us we have.

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Why Let Robert Moses’ descendants have his way with us this time? Instead, we demand that this representative body come up with a VILLAGERS WANTS list. We want a performance plaza that’s the most successful in the world. We want all the gorgeous, flowering trees we have now and then some. We want a green park in the park areas. We want the raised edges and areas which invite all those spontaneous gatherings. We want smooth concrete for those who are older or handicapped people so they can move without hurting themselves. ((We want the rats gone or at least housed a little less close to our ankles.)) We want a magnificent park and a world-recognized performance space.

We want to bring a positive approach to the WSP repair that makes sense, is beautiful, and is twisted and crooked and funky and not the racist, classist, ((and)) anti-music and prim viewing garden ((like the one)) the Parks People and NYU want! We want a diverse park. We want an informal park. We want an unfenced park. We want a park with wide (not narrow) vistas. (BTW narrow is one of the Hebrew and Greek understandings of sin. When we become narrow, we have forsaken wide. Wide is good, narrow is bad.) We want a wide, open park that continues to invite the human talent and exuberance that made it famous.

We don’t not want change. We do want community respectful and designed change, especially for the homeless, the street musicians and people who love the park.